3 Weeks Today!

It's hard to believe it's been three weeks since Jake was born. Sometimes it seems like an eternity, sometimes it seems like the days just fly by!

Sorry for not posting anything in the last two weeks, it's been a little crazy. This is likely to be a pretty long post so I'm going to put most of this on another page to not take up so much room on this main page.

We were released from the hospital on the Thursday after he was born. They kept us an extra day because his weight had slipped down below where they were comfortable so we stuck around and worked on breast feeding. Jake came out being a serious 'tongue sucker' as they called it in the hospital. Apparently he'd been happily sucking away on his tongue while in the womb which is comforting to him but not exactly conducive to breast feeding. So we had to work hard to teach him the right way to feed which was quite opposite to the way he'd been sucking for the last 9 mos. Not an easy task!

I have to say that we had the absolute best care at Southwest Washington Medical Center. The staff at the family birth center were amazing! From our wonderful midwife Dee to the labor nurse Kim and all the nurses and care givers who took care of us after Jake arrived - we were truly spoiled! I'm so thankful we found such a great place to give birth.

By Thursday, everything seemed to be going well and we were thrilled to be home. That is until the little guy went on a breast feeding strike mid-way through the day and refused to eat anything other than formula through a tube on our finger! Not a happy night for us.

The next day we went to our mother-baby appointment with a wonderful woman who was incredibly helpful. She checked out Jake and pronounced him absolutely perfect and gaining weight nicely. She spent lots of time working with us on breast feeing and we left feeling much better about everything.

That is until later that night when I started having chest pains and trouble breathing. We called Kaiser and they encouraged us to head to the ER at Clackamas Sunnyside. They determined that I was severely anemic and admitted me overnight to the hospital where they pumped me full of blood to get my blood count back to up where it should be. Not exactly where I wanted to spend my second night out of the hospital, but again we had awesome nurses and I got to stay in one of the labor recovery rooms in the beautifully remodeled birthing center. Funny because we had debated which hospital to deliver at since we're basically halfway between Sunnyside and Southwest Washington and in the end got to spend time at both!!

This is where I must interrupt the sequence of events to tell you how wonderful my parents are. They were with us every step of the way during labor and delivery and spent much time with us while still recovering at SWWMC. Then they ended up at the ER with us on Friday night 'til the wee hours of the morning and dad stayed with me in the hospital all night while mom went home with Kari and stayed up all night with Jake so Kari could get some sleep! We both feel so blessed to have them (and lots of other family members too) around to help out - we honestly couldn't have done this without them.

Ok, so I got back home on Saturday afternoon basically a week after we had left home to be induced! We finally were able to settle in at home, pay some attention to Potter and work on figuring out our routine with Jake. We're lucky he is really a very good natured kid who hardly ever fusses unless he really needs something. We spent most of that first week holding him 24 hours a day because that is the only way he'd sleep but we slowly transitioned him into the swing and the vibrating bouncy chair - thank God for both!!

Potter spent the first week moping around, but once we found some time to pay attention to him and he realized that Jake isn't going anywhere he's returned to normal. He loves to give Jake kisses and now comes running anytime he cries just to make sure he is ok!

Breast feeding was still a struggle - one day he'd have it down no problem and the next day he seemed to have forgotten all he had learned and we'd be back to square one. Very frustrating for all of us and really, really painful for me. Around 2am on Thanksgiving morning I had a total nervous breakdown as I was trying to get him to latch on properly. Crying and bleeding and really frustrated, Kari and I decided that the best thing for all of us was to stop breast feeding directly and give him bottles of pumped breast milk.

None of this had gone as I had planned - a good lesson to learn when dealing with babies - but we had to do something to fix a stressful, painful situation that didn't seem to be getting any better despite the best efforts of us and 5 lactation consultants! I'm a little sad not to be directly feeding him, but pumping and giving him a bottle is going so well for all of us that I know it was the right decision. He's getting the nutrients he needs, I'm not in pain and we're all much less stressed out! Besides, now Kari can help with those middle of the night feedings!! ;)

Since Thanksgiving things have gone smoothly for the most part and we're finding our groove. Jake is eating like a champ and growing like a weed. At our two week appointment with the pediatrician he was up to 7 lbs 8 oz which is 4 oz over his birth weight! Fabulous news considering how much he lost during those first few days. He's sleeping well too - sometimes going 5 hours at a stretch.

That's not to say that there aren't challenging times too - like when all he wants to do is eat every hour and not sleep! But we're all starting to get adjusted to each other and figure out how to make our lives work. Kari is still struggling to get caught up with work but thank goodness most of our clients are really understanding.

Healing from a c-section has been much more difficult than I imagined but I'm finally starting to feel like my old self again. Still having to be careful and not do too much, but I got out of the house several times this week and even took Jake up to have lunch with my mom and show him off to her colleagues.

We're all looking forward to the holidays ahead and are taking Jake to see Santa next weekend. We'll definitely post pictures here.

Thanks for all of your good wishes, presents, and food - we are so lucky to have so many great friends and family members around to spoil us!

Posted on December 02, 2007 by Carrie Wynkoop | Comments (6) |


Wow. You guys have been busy. Carrie, I'm so glad to hear you're okay, that must have been quite a scare. Pregnancy does so many strange things to a woman's body - and feeding another human being (inside not to mention outside) is a lot of work so be sure to keep eating well and take good care of yourself. We'll see you soon.

Posted by lang at December 3, 2007 03:00 PM

Hi guys,
Wow! What an adventure! I'm sorry to hear it's been bumpy, but I'm very glad you're all doing well and finding your way. You're doing great. He's beautiful and you all look happy.

p.s. Carrie I TOTALLY sympathize with the emotional breakdown during breastfeeding -- did that several times. ;)

Take care!

Posted by Amy at December 4, 2007 11:01 AM

Thanks, Lang and Amy for your support. It is so great to have so many wonderful friends who are also new moms around to lean on for support! And to ask for advice too!! ;) Carrie

Posted by Carrie at December 4, 2007 06:21 PM


Posted by Erika at December 5, 2007 12:39 PM

What a beautiful, sweet baby - and what delightfully joyous parents. Thanks for sharing with us. Know how much we are thinking of you as you begin your life as a family.

I'm amazed at Carrie's resiliency through what must surely were some very stressful situations and decisions.

As the mom of a guy who had swing dependency as an infant, I'm as near as the phone if you ever need a break!

Love to all of you,

Posted by Kathleen at December 6, 2007 07:48 PM

finally got on email at home to read your notes. I was looking for a photo of Jake and grandpa terry to copy for greatgrand ma wynkoop. will keep looking and if none there request one at your next photo shoot. glad you are starting to feel better. heard you gave karen her bday gift and she loved it. she promised me a photo. keep smiling and loving your jake and potter. love aunt jackie, david, nellie and gracie allen (the escape artist)

Posted by aunt jackie at December 11, 2007 04:17 AM

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